What is a Doula?
As a doula,I accompany women and their birth partner(s) in labor to help ensure a satisfying birth experience. I draw on my knowledge of the birth process and experience to provide continuous emotional support, physical comfort measures and, as needed, information that will help you communicate with other members of your birth team to ensure you have an understanding of the events that take place during your birth. I can provide reassurance and perspective to you and your birth partner, make suggestions for labor progress and help with relaxation, massage, positioning and other techniques for your comfort.
Choosing me as YOUR Doula
I will meet with you and your birth partner to get to know you and answer any questions you may have concerning the use of a doula for your birth. There is no fee for this meeting, and it does not obligate you in any way to use my services.
If you do select me as your doula, I will want to meet with you again to go over your plans for birth and make final arrangements for care during your birth. I will also want to know your own best ways for coping and how you and your partner foresee working together and what my role in your birth will be.
Once you have hired me, I am available by telephone/text to answer any questions you may have or to help you find resources in the area. During your last two months of pregnancy, I prefer that you update me by email or phone/text after each of your appointments with your midwife or physician. It is also recommended that you advise your midwife/physician that you have hired a doula. If you like I will go with you to your prenatal to meet with your care provider.
Dads & Doulas
The baby’s father plays an essential role in providing support for the baby’s mother. A doula cannot make some of the unique contributions that the partner makes. Such contributions include an intimate knowledge of the woman, and his love for her and the baby. As doulas, we are not there instead of the partner. It has been found that a doula compliments the role of the partner. Some Dads may feel overwhelmed with the expectations to be instant experts and decision makers in regards to childbirth. That type of expectation is unrealistic for anyone who has little prior knowledge of birth or medical procedures. With this expectation, some partners can feel helpless and distressed and are not able to provide the confident reassurance and constant nurturing that a woman in labor needs. With a doula present, the pressure on the partner is decreased and they are able to participate at their own level of comfort. Partners often feel relieved when they know they have a doula there to help them and they actually enjoy the experience much more!